So how does one extinguish this character’s flame? How can you overcome them? How do you beat a troll?
I’m going to take you through some ways to do just that. While these methods are not foolproof (nothing ever is), you may find that they work for you. Then you can go and spread your knowledge to others, and help with their troubles.
Remember that they are cowards hiding behind the wall of the Internet
Most trolls are hiding behind anonymity, and if you were to accidentally meet them in person, you would find them to be little more than a keyboard warrior (all bark, no bite). When brought out of their hidey holes, they will cower and run. Make sure you keep that in the back of your mind when someone insults your mother, or calls you something with SJW in it.
Also remember that they are bored and alone
I don’t know if many people know this – I suspect lots don’t – but these people (to be polite) are just bored and alone. They are unhappy and can’t stand knowing that others are happy, so they go out their way to make it so that everyone is a miserable as they are. They’re not having fun, so why should others?
Instead of getting annoyed at them, pity them. You can even tell them so, but I suggest you just pity them offline (in your head) for most situations.
What if I get hundreds of hate comments all at one time?
Ignore, ignore, ignore. The first step is just ignore them. Turn off notifications on your phone, email notifications, notifications everywhere else. Silence them, and they won’t seem as important. That is if you can’t help but reply. If you have the self control to just ignore them, even with notifications on, you can laugh at their stupidity and grammatical errors.
On the off chance silence fails, simply block them. Simple as that. You’ll never hear from them again.
Alternatively, flag, flag, flag. Always flag if possible – that’s a number one rule. While you may think it’s pointless because the system/company (YouTube, Twitter, Facebook) doesn’t really care, it just feels good to do it. And who knows, maybe companies will start having to care soon.
No one can get past this fallen tree. Be the tree!
Let’s say they insult someone or something you love
This one is easy. Trolls sometimes attack things close to you in order to get under your skin. They don’t really hate that person, because they don’t know them and have never met them. They likely don’t hate whatever or whoever it is they’re talking about – they just want a reaction. The solution is a simple one we’ve already covered: ignore them. Forget about them, because they forgot about you the moment they hit reply.
Remember that no one else but you can dictate how you feel.
This may sound weird, but it’s true. Someone cannot simply tell you to be upset or to get angry at something. No one can tell you what to think, or feel, or how to react. By getting upset or angry at a faceless username or disembodied voice (if via voice chat), you are allowing them to tell you what to do. And you don’t want some nobody to dictate what you feel, do you?
It’s possibly the hardest thing to do, but by simply not allowing yourself to have either a defensive or aggressive response to something will make you happier. You will no longer get as upset at things that are fundamentally pointless, and so naturally that means you will happier. A happier you leads to a more productive you, a more productive you leads to richer you (and I’m not talking about money), a richer you means you have beaten the bully. And who doesn’t want that?
Before you all shout at me, and ask how you do that, or shun it as some mumbo-jumbo hippy talk, I need to say one thing. You are not a robot, you do have emotions and you do react to things. I’m not saying you have to get rid of this, as it can be a good things. Getting angry at injustice against others or at someone insulting you is not inherently bad – it is a natural response.
But why show the haters that you’re angry? Make yourself happy. People will see that and will want it too.
Now, having said all that, how do you “turn off” your emotions?
The trick is that you don’t. This may sound counterproductive, but you are human. Instead of thinking of it as turning off emotions, you think of it as blocking out negativity. Normally, if someone says something negative to you, what do you do? Respond negatively, right? Say you didn’t. Say you react positively. Now, in one simple step you have turned something negative from someone else into something positive for you.
Let’s look at an example. We will call the bully “Billy”, because it’s 1 letter different and it rhymes. (And definitely not because a kid called Billy was mean to me once…nope.)
Example 1:
Example 2:
You: “Thanks! I can cook well.”
You don’t actually need to say anything, just thinking it is enough. If you are the type of person to shy away from conflict, this tactic can help you be more confident, and fight the important battles you need to. As long as you believe the words you are hearing, the impact for you is the same whether they’re out loud or in your head.
You: “My dad made a good choice then, thanks!”
Be the meme!
The trolls are not in my head. I control what’s in there!
It’s amazing to think that not a year ago I was you, desperately looking for a way to stop letting everything get to me. While I know that my method will not work for everyone, I will tell you how I started my journey to freedom of internet haters, or dumb people.
It’s simple really. I told myself that I control what I think. Much like with thinking positively, I didn’t let the haters control what I felt. I’d tell myself that they were not really there, or they were just an angry person (depending on the situation). I then just stopped hating them. I learned that they were alone, and they hated the world for it. They blamed external factors, just like I was for my unhappiness. I was blaming them for making me feel bad, so I took responsibility for how I felt. I felt sorry for them.
Then I started to realize that I was making myself unhappy. I was dragging others down that path, so I stopped it. It wasn’t instant, and I am still learning, but I’m getting there.
Blaming others for something you control is a waste of time, so I took responsibility for myself, and here I am (hopefully) helping you.
You can be the spoon too!
That’s that. Simply by being a good person, ignoring the riff-raff, thinking positively, and ensuring you do something to silence the many nasty voices, you may find yourself to be far happier. You hopefully can go to YouTube, Twitter, Reddit, etc., and not worry about someone ruining your day by looking on the dark side of life. You can swap the way you think, by thinking on the bright side of life.
In closing, I want to share a comment from one of our GameSkinny editors, QuintLyn:
Make the trolls feel like you don’t care. Simply because you don’t.
I mean. It’s probably a bit more complicated than that, but I tend to find that if the trolls feel like they can’t get to you, they go looking for something else to do to keep themselves entertained.
One Warning…
Bear in mind that if things go further than the realm of the Internet, it is no longer a simple matter of just “dealing with it” or shrugging it off. At that point, it becomes a matter for law enforcement to handle. Get all the details you can about the person, or people, and send those on to the police.
Let me know your good thoughts in the comments and share the positivity! And be sure to stay upbeat, always.
